diff --git a/Cargo.lock b/Cargo.lock
index d9758e6f..7985a411 100644
--- a/Cargo.lock
+++ b/Cargo.lock
@@ -3188,7 +3188,7 @@ dependencies = [
 [[package]]
 name = "ruma"
 version = "0.10.1"
-source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb#c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb"
+source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8#427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8"
 dependencies = [
  "assign",
  "js_int",
@@ -3210,7 +3210,7 @@ dependencies = [
 [[package]]
 name = "ruma-appservice-api"
 version = "0.10.0"
-source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb#c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb"
+source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8#427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8"
 dependencies = [
  "js_int",
  "ruma-common",
@@ -3222,7 +3222,7 @@ dependencies = [
 [[package]]
 name = "ruma-client-api"
 version = "0.18.0"
-source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb#c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb"
+source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8#427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8"
 dependencies = [
  "as_variant",
  "assign",
@@ -3245,7 +3245,7 @@ dependencies = [
 [[package]]
 name = "ruma-common"
 version = "0.13.0"
-source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb#c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb"
+source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8#427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8"
 dependencies = [
  "as_variant",
  "base64 0.22.1",
@@ -3276,7 +3276,7 @@ dependencies = [
 [[package]]
 name = "ruma-events"
 version = "0.28.1"
-source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb#c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb"
+source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8#427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8"
 dependencies = [
  "as_variant",
  "indexmap 2.7.0",
@@ -3301,7 +3301,7 @@ dependencies = [
 [[package]]
 name = "ruma-federation-api"
 version = "0.9.0"
-source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb#c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb"
+source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8#427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8"
 dependencies = [
  "bytes",
  "http",
@@ -3319,7 +3319,7 @@ dependencies = [
 [[package]]
 name = "ruma-identifiers-validation"
 version = "0.9.5"
-source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb#c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb"
+source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8#427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8"
 dependencies = [
  "js_int",
  "thiserror 2.0.11",
@@ -3328,7 +3328,7 @@ dependencies = [
 [[package]]
 name = "ruma-identity-service-api"
 version = "0.9.0"
-source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb#c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb"
+source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8#427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8"
 dependencies = [
  "js_int",
  "ruma-common",
@@ -3338,7 +3338,7 @@ dependencies = [
 [[package]]
 name = "ruma-macros"
 version = "0.13.0"
-source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb#c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb"
+source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8#427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8"
 dependencies = [
  "cfg-if",
  "proc-macro-crate",
@@ -3353,7 +3353,7 @@ dependencies = [
 [[package]]
 name = "ruma-push-gateway-api"
 version = "0.9.0"
-source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb#c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb"
+source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8#427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8"
 dependencies = [
  "js_int",
  "ruma-common",
@@ -3365,7 +3365,7 @@ dependencies = [
 [[package]]
 name = "ruma-server-util"
 version = "0.3.0"
-source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb#c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb"
+source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8#427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8"
 dependencies = [
  "headers",
  "http",
@@ -3378,7 +3378,7 @@ dependencies = [
 [[package]]
 name = "ruma-signatures"
 version = "0.15.0"
-source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb#c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb"
+source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8#427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8"
 dependencies = [
  "base64 0.22.1",
  "ed25519-dalek",
@@ -3394,7 +3394,7 @@ dependencies = [
 [[package]]
 name = "ruma-state-res"
 version = "0.11.0"
-source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb#c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb"
+source = "git+https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma?rev=427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8#427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8"
 dependencies = [
  "futures-util",
  "js_int",
diff --git a/Cargo.toml b/Cargo.toml
index 042587fc..b8c145ca 100644
--- a/Cargo.toml
+++ b/Cargo.toml
@@ -332,7 +332,7 @@ version = "0.1.2"
 [workspace.dependencies.ruma]
 git = "https://github.com/girlbossceo/ruwuma"
 #branch = "conduwuit-changes"
-rev = "c4f55b39900b33b2d443dd12a6a2dab50961fdfb"
+rev = "427877d5bc14988ed877e500bbb27f8bc08b84e8"
 features = [
     "compat",
     "rand",
diff --git a/src/admin/debug/commands.rs b/src/admin/debug/commands.rs
index a77587b0..49078dde 100644
--- a/src/admin/debug/commands.rs
+++ b/src/admin/debug/commands.rs
@@ -725,7 +725,7 @@ pub(super) async fn force_set_room_state_from_server(
 		.save_state(room_id.clone().as_ref(), new_room_state)
 		.await?;
 
-	let state_lock = self.services.rooms.state.mutex.lock(&room_id).await;
+	let state_lock = self.services.rooms.state.mutex.lock(&*room_id).await;
 	self.services
 		.rooms
 		.state
diff --git a/src/core/utils/mutex_map.rs b/src/core/utils/mutex_map.rs
index 9b9821fe..03a4adf1 100644
--- a/src/core/utils/mutex_map.rs
+++ b/src/core/utils/mutex_map.rs
@@ -1,7 +1,13 @@
-use std::{fmt::Debug, hash::Hash, sync::Arc};
+use std::{
+	fmt::Debug,
+	hash::Hash,
+	sync::{Arc, TryLockError::WouldBlock},
+};
 
 use tokio::sync::OwnedMutexGuard as Omg;
 
+use crate::{err, Result};
+
 /// Map of Mutexes
 pub struct MutexMap<Key, Val> {
 	map: Map<Key, Val>,
@@ -30,16 +36,17 @@ where
 	}
 
 	#[tracing::instrument(level = "trace", skip(self))]
-	pub async fn lock<K>(&self, k: &K) -> Guard<Key, Val>
+	pub async fn lock<'a, K>(&'a self, k: &'a K) -> Guard<Key, Val>
 	where
 		K: Debug + Send + ?Sized + Sync,
-		Key: for<'a> From<&'a K>,
+		Key: TryFrom<&'a K>,
+		<Key as TryFrom<&'a K>>::Error: Debug,
 	{
 		let val = self
 			.map
 			.lock()
 			.expect("locked")
-			.entry(k.into())
+			.entry(k.try_into().expect("failed to construct key"))
 			.or_default()
 			.clone();
 
@@ -49,6 +56,51 @@ where
 		}
 	}
 
+	#[tracing::instrument(level = "trace", skip(self))]
+	pub fn try_lock<'a, K>(&self, k: &'a K) -> Result<Guard<Key, Val>>
+	where
+		K: Debug + Send + ?Sized + Sync,
+		Key: TryFrom<&'a K>,
+		<Key as TryFrom<&'a K>>::Error: Debug,
+	{
+		let val = self
+			.map
+			.lock()
+			.expect("locked")
+			.entry(k.try_into().expect("failed to construct key"))
+			.or_default()
+			.clone();
+
+		Ok(Guard::<Key, Val> {
+			map: Arc::clone(&self.map),
+			val: val.try_lock_owned().map_err(|_| err!("would yield"))?,
+		})
+	}
+
+	#[tracing::instrument(level = "trace", skip(self))]
+	pub fn try_try_lock<'a, K>(&self, k: &'a K) -> Result<Guard<Key, Val>>
+	where
+		K: Debug + Send + ?Sized + Sync,
+		Key: TryFrom<&'a K>,
+		<Key as TryFrom<&'a K>>::Error: Debug,
+	{
+		let val = self
+			.map
+			.try_lock()
+			.map_err(|e| match e {
+				| WouldBlock => err!("would block"),
+				| _ => panic!("{e:?}"),
+			})?
+			.entry(k.try_into().expect("failed to construct key"))
+			.or_default()
+			.clone();
+
+		Ok(Guard::<Key, Val> {
+			map: Arc::clone(&self.map),
+			val: val.try_lock_owned().map_err(|_| err!("would yield"))?,
+		})
+	}
+
 	#[must_use]
 	pub fn contains(&self, k: &Key) -> bool { self.map.lock().expect("locked").contains_key(k) }